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Recently John and I entered into a year long coaching program with mentor and Network Marketing business coach Eric Worre.  It’s part of our commitment to become the best we can become … for ourselves, and for you, in this organization of leaders we are building.

It’s the second time in my life that I have worked one-on-one with a coach of this caliber.  My first experience changed my thinking patterns and behaviors so profoundly that I credit it for skyrocketing me from a fledgling, insecure rookie to receiving the company’s highest bestowed honor – the Award of Excellence – within twelve months.  It was a meteoric rise.  So, as I enter this new coaching partnership, I know to fasten my seatbelt!  I am excited.  I am also afraid.  Because I understand that pushing my boundaries, sometimes kicking and screaming, is a part of the growth equation!

In our first session, Eric said two things which grabbed me:

1. The first thing I want you to do, is to forgive yourself.  Forgive yourself for not knowing better.  Forgive yourself for stumbling. Forgive yourself for your results. Forgive yourself for not being perfect. Wipe the slate clean.  This is a fresh start.
2. The second thing I want you to do, is forgive others. Forgive others for not mentoring you well.  Forgive others for not knowing. Forgive others for not leading.  Forgive them for abandoning you, if they have.  Forgive them all.

And know this… You are worthy.  You are capable. You are deserving.

Wow… he hit the nail on the head!  And he was right.

Following our first coaching session, he shared an article he had written, which speaks to this idea that mistakes are a powerful part of learning.  You will find the article below.  See if it doesn’t grab you the way it grabbed us.  Following the post, give us your thoughts.

Guest Article: Eric Worre =========================================================================================

In life we all make mistakes. And that is especially true for our work in the Network Marketing industry.  Those mistakes could show up in any number of areas, including:

• -not faithfully using your company’s products
• -screwing up your prospects
• -not fully engaging in building your business
• -not advancing to the next rank
• -failing to hit a goal
• -allowing distractions to take you off track
• -being inconsistent in your building efforts
• -someone hurt your feelings and you allowed that to stop your growth
• -not stepping into your role as leader
• -running good people out of your organization
• -or a MILLION other challenges!

That is something I think we all do.  When we don’t live up to our own expectations, we beat on ourselves and beat on ourselves and beat on ourselves.  It’s so unhealthy and so unproductive!

When it comes to success in Network Marketing (and in life),  you can count on two things:

1. You WILL make mistakes. Mistakes in judgment. Mistakes in execution. Mistakes in what you leave out. Mistakes in what you put in. Expect it.
2. No matter how prepared you think you are, this business will test you and this business will surprise you.  Just when you think you have it “all wrapped up”, something happens to humble you.

I have learned that, too often, people in network marketing hold onto their “failures” and dwell on them.  It’s like obsessively chewing on the same piece of gum for year after year, as it collects more gunk, bacteria, mouth goo, etc.  You wouldn’t do that would you? But so many people dwell on their “failures”. Or on how someone or something else failed them.

Look, the problem with dwelling on all this is… what you dwell on… you are actually just rehearsing and retraining your mind to do the next time around!

That is the problem with “slumps”.  The more you dwell on how awful you are doing, the more you carry those emotions into your efforts. It’s like putting a 100 pound lead weight around each leg and then trying to jump out of a 30 foot hole!

What you mentally dwell on with strong emotion is what you communicate to your subconscious mind that you want it to do!

Despite all your positive programming, which I believe in and teach, your negative programming through dwelling on mistakes will more likely influence how you think, act and respond, because it is most familiar and it is what you believe in with strong emotion.

Remember this: the unconscious is most impressed by anything that includes strong emotion, repetition and strong belief.

So avoiding this negative loop requires better attitudes toward learning.  It required the discipline and awareness to notice when you are beating on yourself and to STOP IT.  And it requires acceptance of mistakes.

If you find yourself dwelling on the past or getting mad that you are not making fast enough progress, try the following two steps:

1. Get yourself in a nice meditative state.  Or if you ‘re not into that, just get yourself into a quiet place and take a series of deep breaths.
2. Then, to yourself, silently, repeat the following (put it on a 3×5 card if necessary so you have it with you):

“I made mistakes as part of my learning. I HAD to make those mistakes to see where I can move to next. There is no way I could NOT have made them. Those mistakes are the foundation of new power just as soon as I forgive and release them.

Since more mistakes will always be unavoidable, I will embrace them MORE quickly, forgive MORE easily, so I can more quickly move into POWER.

Forgiving others, and letting them go is good training for forgiving myself. So even if they don’t “deserve” it I will do if for my own sake. I will either get what I want or learn what I need to .  Mistakes are just MARKERS, marking out where I can step into new freedom, choice, power and growth.

I may wish I had been more evolved or perfect, but THIS is my path and I embrace it. I may not always like it, I may slip and grumble, BUT THIS IS MY PATH. I will let my learning’s pull me forward and I will never stop learning until I draw my last breath.”

For all of my Network Marketing Professionals friends, I want you to know there is tremendous power in forgiving yourself. Please take a moment to do that right now. And in the future, if you realize you’re beating yourself up again, REMEMBER to keep doing it as we move forward on this journey together.

Success is within your reach!

Eric Worre

To learn more about Eric Worre and his projects, visit NetworkMarketingPro.com

Your Turn,

What do you think of Eric’s viewpoint?  How do you respond when you make a mistake? What works for you? Reply with your thoughts below.